Psychologist fari

  *Today’s Session… Learning to Feel Loved Again* _The belief in being lovable again._ After emotional wounds, a person doesn’t just fear relationships—they gradually become scared of the whole concept of love. It’s as if the heart has built an invisible wall around itself so that it never has to break again. In the shadow of that fear, they start asking themselves questions that seem real but are actually born from pain. They think: _“Maybe I’m no longer worthy of love.”_ _“Maybe there’s something fundamentally lacking in me.”_ _“Maybe love always ends in pain.”_ Then they begin to make life decisions based on those thoughts, even though they aren’t true—they’re just the language of the wound that’s still healing, trying to find a way to speak. The ability to feel love never disappears. No matter how broken someone may be, the light of love inside the heart never goes out—it just hides beneath layers of fear. And that fear isn’t an enemy; it’s a guardian that, after learning lesso...

"Today's session... pre-marriage counseling... "Marriage is not a dream, it is a responsibility." Reality and expectations. In our society, marriage is often presented as a beautiful dream, movie scenes, poetic promises, and the belief that love will automatically solve every problem. But the truth is, marriage is not a dream, it is a continuous responsibility, a responsibility that starts with emotions and extends to character, patience, decisions, and daily actions. The purpose of marriage is not just to achieve happiness, but to live life with each other, and this is where most people get confused, because they bring emotions to marriage but are not prepared for reality. Emotions are fast, quickly changing, beautiful, but temporary; while reality is simple, hard, and permanent. Love can take you to marriage, but to run a marriage, consciousness, patience, and responsibility are required. Assuming that after marriage, a person will change, the mother-in-law will be...

  "Today's session... "Physical distance, the funeral of respect." She uttered only one sentence, and to be honest, the whole session froze right there, as if someone had suddenly stopped time. There was no anger or scream in her voice, just a tired acceptance: "Doctor Sahib, they tell me: why do you always talk about this?" I looked into her eyes and said slowly, that slowness which is sometimes heavier than a scream: "Because you are always alone." See... physical distance is not just a matter of sex, it attacks more than the body, it attacks the mind and heart. It is that silent process in which a woman's self-worth is slowly buried. Research shows that when physical and emotional intimacy ends in a relationship for a long time, the same part of a woman's brain that is active during deep trauma or mourning becomes active, meaning her brain registers this distance as loss, and if loss happens day after day, it takes the form of depressio...

“Divorces are very easy, but after a divorce, a person is left crying — man or woman.” A young man asked me on the phone: “What if Respected sir, even if there are no children, the person is still left crying, man or woman. When a second relationship starts, people ask questions, think a lot, ask a lot, and most importantly, the person himself is in pain. These were the few lines that brought the young man to me. The young man placed cards and numerous gifts on the table. He opened them one by one, showed them to me, and talked about the stories attached to them. This was our third session. The young man started recalling dates and said: “Doctor, these things that she had given me as gifts, I never had the courage to share with anyone else. I felt ashamed talking to friends and family, and I was afraid that they might make fun of me.” For people, their own story is very important, they don't want anyone to hurt their feelings, but they take a strange pleasure in making fun of other...

Yesterday’s session…❤️ “The silent war between husband and wife… that no one sees.” It was a typical Pakistani couple—outwardly “fine”… but completely broken inside. Today was their third session. The wife was clutching her dupatta tightly… and the husband kept glancing at his watch—classic avoidance behavior. I said, “Today there will be only one question… How do you both feel when the other is not there?” A shadow fell over the wife’s face. The husband immediately responded defensively, “Doctor, there’s nothing else; it’s just misunderstandings.” I gently replied, “Sometimes misunderstandings are just unspoken wounds.” At that moment the wife began to speak, her voice filled with pain, “The loneliness… that no one sees.” She said, “Doctor, we haven’t talked for years… they just give orders, criticize, and say I’m overreacting. I’ve spent countless nights alone… even while living in this house I feel emotionally homeless.” Hearing this, the husband was stunned—perhaps hearing it for t...

  “Today’s session… Many married couples and people tangled in relationships ask me after the session, ‘The other person says, makes promises, assures, swears, talks… so what should I do now?’ Today again someone asked, ‘He swore on his parents… now tell me, Doctor, what should I do?’ I replied gently, ‘There must be a voice inside your heart telling you what to do, right?’ He answered in a confused tone, ‘My heart wants to go back… or let him come back…’ I reminded him, ‘I asked, what does the voice inside you say? What does your heart say? Those are your feelings.’ He said wearily, ‘Doctor… I don’t understand anything.’ His tone clearly said, ‘You decide about my feelings… let me go… keep drinking your coffee.’ I cannot hold anyone’s hand in life, nor can I stop them. My job is only to show the path, to explain, and to say that the choice is yours, you have to walk it, because I do not and cannot control your life.’ Then he asked, ‘If you were in my place, what would you…’