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“Divorces are very easy, but after a divorce, a person is left crying — man or woman.” A young man asked me on the phone: “What if Respected sir, even if there are no children, the person is still left crying, man or woman. When a second relationship starts, people ask questions, think a lot, ask a lot, and most importantly, the person himself is in pain. These were the few lines that brought the young man to me. The young man placed cards and numerous gifts on the table. He opened them one by one, showed them to me, and talked about the stories attached to them. This was our third session. The young man started recalling dates and said: “Doctor, these things that she had given me as gifts, I never had the courage to share with anyone else. I felt ashamed talking to friends and family, and I was afraid that they might make fun of me.” For people, their own story is very important, they don't want anyone to hurt their feelings, but they take a strange pleasure in making fun of other...

Yesterday’s session…❤️ “The silent war between husband and wife… that no one sees.” It was a typical Pakistani couple—outwardly “fine”… but completely broken inside. Today was their third session. The wife was clutching her dupatta tightly… and the husband kept glancing at his watch—classic avoidance behavior. I said, “Today there will be only one question… How do you both feel when the other is not there?” A shadow fell over the wife’s face. The husband immediately responded defensively, “Doctor, there’s nothing else; it’s just misunderstandings.” I gently replied, “Sometimes misunderstandings are just unspoken wounds.” At that moment the wife began to speak, her voice filled with pain, “The loneliness… that no one sees.” She said, “Doctor, we haven’t talked for years… they just give orders, criticize, and say I’m overreacting. I’ve spent countless nights alone… even while living in this house I feel emotionally homeless.” Hearing this, the husband was stunned—perhaps hearing it for t...

  “Today’s session… Many married couples and people tangled in relationships ask me after the session, ‘The other person says, makes promises, assures, swears, talks… so what should I do now?’ Today again someone asked, ‘He swore on his parents… now tell me, Doctor, what should I do?’ I replied gently, ‘There must be a voice inside your heart telling you what to do, right?’ He answered in a confused tone, ‘My heart wants to go back… or let him come back…’ I reminded him, ‘I asked, what does the voice inside you say? What does your heart say? Those are your feelings.’ He said wearily, ‘Doctor… I don’t understand anything.’ His tone clearly said, ‘You decide about my feelings… let me go… keep drinking your coffee.’ I cannot hold anyone’s hand in life, nor can I stop them. My job is only to show the path, to explain, and to say that the choice is yours, you have to walk it, because I do not and cannot control your life.’ Then he asked, ‘If you were in my place, what would you…’

  Yesterday's session... "Children's Anxiety - Small Body, Big Fears" Today's patient was a seven-year-old boy - small, thin, with a school diary in his hand and a small broken pencil in his pocket. The mother started crying as soon as she entered: "Doctor, my child wakes up scared, screams while sleeping, and locks himself in the room after coming back from school. This wasn't the case before... something must have happened!" I looked at the child. There was a strange fear in his eyes - as if someone was sitting inside him, threatening him repeatedly. I approached him and asked in a soft voice: "Son... what scares you, does something hurt your head?" He remained silent for a few moments... then slowly said: "My teacher gets angry with me. My friends take away my lunchbox... and tell me I'm weak. Am I... weak?" This was the moment I call the child's soul suffering. I said very gently: "Son... the one who bullies other...

Today's session... This is a session from which those who are building relationships can learn a few things, and those who are about to get married can also benefit. The girl was heard in the first two sessions, saying yes, okay, good, etc. Apart from that, I didn't say anything in both sessions, just wrote down some points. At the end of the second session, I said that the next session would be half yours and half mine. Before I say my piece, let me tell you what the girl told me and what she wanted from me. She had a relationship, then got engaged, and it's likely that she'll get married this year. She talks to her fiance, meets him, and they visit each other's homes. She told me, "He's very good, takes care of me, listens to me, is very loving and caring, has a good appetite, likes to eat at different places, used to give gifts initially, but now they're fewer (she thought about this for a while before telling me). He talks very appropriately, let...

Today's session.. This session is dedicated to the younger generation. There's a lesson hidden in it for all of you. No matter what field of life you're in, analyze this session from every angle, think about it, and write about it. Then put all your energy into saying: "I will achieve this, no matter what." Just start the journey. Destinations come to a person on their own; otherwise, a person gets lost in the dust of time and one day stands in front of the mirror and can't even recognize themselves. A young person was afraid. He was scared to do anything - afraid of failure, loss, and not being able to do it. He said: "When I see successful people, my heart breaks. I think I won't be able to do anything. Doctor, I've come to you with a lot of despair... and my only hope is in you." The young person kept talking, and I kept listening. When the coffee arrived, I took a few sips of the steaming hot coffee and said softly: "My brother... co...