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When One Becomes Two: Maintaining Individuality in Marriage

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"Today's premarital counseling session... 'When one person becomes our entire universe, we start revolving around them, and these cycles can be dizzying. It's not necessary that we fall, but it's likely that things will start to seem blurry.' Tell your 'virtual god' that you value and cherish me, but I also have existing blood ties that cannot be abandoned. I enjoy spending time with my childhood friends and loved ones; please understand my feelings and boundaries." This translation conveys the importance of maintaining individual relationships and boundaries within a marriage. The speaker emphasizes the need for mutual understanding and respect in a relationship. Some possible key takeaways from this premarital counseling session are: - *Importance of Communication*: Openly discussing feelings, boundaries, and expectations can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts. - *Maintaining Individuality*: Preserving personal relationships and interes...

The Power of Independence in Relationships

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 It seems like you're sharing a powerful story about a relationship where one partner tries to control the other's life, isolating them from their friends, family, and passions. The story highlights the importance of maintaining one's identity and autonomy within a relationship. The phrase "رشتہ یا شادی، آپ کی پوری زندگی نہیں ہونا چاہیے" translates to "A relationship or marriage should not be your entire life." This message resonates with the idea of finding a balance between personal life and relationships. The story also touches upon the theme of emotional abuse and control in relationships. If you're experiencing something similar or know someone who is, there are resources available to help. Would you like online psycho counseling contact this number 923247307848

Love vs. Reality: A Critical Perspective

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  "I would have blindly believed you if I didn't have a personal or professional connection to you. My problem is that I only believe in things that are proven through research, and I think a successful marriage is not about years, but about the strength of the relationship between the couple. After listening to you and analyzing your words, a quote by Aristotle stopped me from moving forward and made me want to talk to you more. The quote is: 'The heart has a thousand eyes, but it cannot see the flaws of the beloved.' The qualities that seem attractive now may turn out to be flaws later. Take time to reflect on yourself and the other person, and analyze each other's words."

Parenting Golden Rules:

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A couple came for a session regarding their children. The session lasted about an hour and twenty minutes. At the end, the young father smiled and said: "Doctor, give us a small formula... so that it doesn't affect the children's psychology." I smiled back at him - even after a deep hour-long session, he was still looking for a shortcut. I said: "Alright... there's a formula, but it's not a magic wand. Remember these five principles - and if you follow them, your children will lead happy lives, and so will you." Parenting Golden Rules: 1. Don't mock children - mocking breaks their confidence, and they withdraw. 2. Learn to trust children - if you don't trust them, they'll learn to lie and deceive. 3. Don't taunt - taunts put chains on children's minds, and they stop growing and learning. 4. Praise them - praise motivates them to do better and believe in their abilities. 5. Leave out physical punishment and threats - it rusts their...

Happy and care session

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A session that brings new life, brings one closer to their Lord, and teaches the art of loving humanity. This morning, a young man called, who had a session two months ago, excitedly said: "Doctor, you said that a grateful person is a happy person... This has proven true! My life has completely changed." I smiled, realizing that gratitude indeed changes one's destiny. I told him, "Remember, everything beautiful in this world is because of humanity and love. A soft-hearted, grateful person is a precious gift from God." The young man said, "Doctor, nothing brings me joy. Success in business or a new car, nothing delights me. I've lost sleep, food tastes bland, anxiety is increasing... I'm drifting away from my family." He spoke for 40 minutes, and I listened silently. Then, I gently said: "From today, adopt just one habit..." It seems like the story is incomplete, but it highlights the importance of gratitude and its impact on one's...