Psychologist fari

If you want to raise your children well, and you want them to live a dignified, strong, and beautiful life, then write down these sentences today and keep them with you. Children’s hearts are like soft clay. The words you plant inside them one day become their personality. Every day, say at least two or three sentences to them with love, calmness, and belief. These small phrases build self-confidence, courage, and self-respect within them. One day these same words will become their support in tough times, light in their loneliness, and will remind them that they are not weak, they are valuable. “I am valuable.”   "میں قیمتی ہوں۔" “I can learn.”   "میں سیکھ سکتا / سکتی ہوں۔" “I can survive hard days.”   "میں مشکل دنوں کا مقابلہ کر سکتا / سکتی ہوں۔" “I deserve respect.”   "میں عزت کے قابل ہوں۔" “I matter.”   "میری اہمیت ہے۔" The deepest impact on a child’s soul comes from a parent’s words. So speak words to them that strengthen them from ...

  Last Session__ Sharp features, large dark eyes, and meticulously combed short hair. Dressed in a white shirt and blue jeans, a young man sat before me, carrying centuries of exhaustion on his face. He looked at me, wondering where to begin... (In the first session he looked like this; today was the seventh session.) "Doctor, for three months one thing has pained me deeply: even the right to cry has been snatched from us men. If something hurtful happens and tears well up in our eyes, we’re told, ‘Men don’t cry’..." "I saw your page twenty days ago. I read many sessions. Three days ago I was in mental anguish that words can’t describe. I felt like wailing out loud, but..." You could feel a lifetime of sorrow in the young man’s tone. That handsome young man let out a long, cold, sorrowful sigh and said: "Doctor, there was no one to hear me cry except my little angel... Pearls would glisten in her dark, dark eyes, and I would remain forever silent... like a fish...

  Session* So many sessions are common, and writing them separately isn't possible due to lack of time. And because we humans get bored with monotony, I thought I'd put those sessions together in a single post. "Never give anyone so much permission that they can play with your emotions and feelings, then walk away and leave you mentally paralyzed. Your mind is the garden of your personality, and you yourself are the gardener of this garden. So you must provide it with fertilizer, soil, water, air, and light yourself. Never, ever hand this over to someone else, so they crush the flourishing flowers of vibrant emotions, trample the tiny blooming buds of feelings, uproot the beautiful lush plants of positive thoughts, and kill the colorful birds of lovely ideas in your garden, leaving your garden devastated as they walk away..." Mental peace is greater than everything because this same mind handles all the affairs of your life. Look, if the head of a household falls ill,...

  Today’s Session This is a long story. The protagonist of this tale crossed the "Irish Sea" to come and meet me—to see for herself what kind of "crazy doctor" I was. She wanted to see if the person who gave such "mad" advice actually looked the part. I have penned these few words from her own perspective. Before we move further into the narrative, we must understand why that girl was thinking this way about me. The girl was born in a European country. Both her parents are Pakistani, but after the children were born, they only visited Pakistan every two or three years, and even then, only for a month or two. She was educated in that European country and held a high-ranking position in a reputable company. One day, her father decided to go to Pakistan, announcing that they would stay for three or four months this time. Everyone happily packed their bags and left for Pakistan. They were all enjoying themselves—touring the country and enjoying the food....

  *Today’s Session… Learning to Feel Loved Again* _The belief in being lovable again._ After emotional wounds, a person doesn’t just fear relationships—they gradually become scared of the whole concept of love. It’s as if the heart has built an invisible wall around itself so that it never has to break again. In the shadow of that fear, they start asking themselves questions that seem real but are actually born from pain. They think: _“Maybe I’m no longer worthy of love.”_ _“Maybe there’s something fundamentally lacking in me.”_ _“Maybe love always ends in pain.”_ Then they begin to make life decisions based on those thoughts, even though they aren’t true—they’re just the language of the wound that’s still healing, trying to find a way to speak. The ability to feel love never disappears. No matter how broken someone may be, the light of love inside the heart never goes out—it just hides beneath layers of fear. And that fear isn’t an enemy; it’s a guardian that, after learning lesso...

"Today's session... pre-marriage counseling... "Marriage is not a dream, it is a responsibility." Reality and expectations. In our society, marriage is often presented as a beautiful dream, movie scenes, poetic promises, and the belief that love will automatically solve every problem. But the truth is, marriage is not a dream, it is a continuous responsibility, a responsibility that starts with emotions and extends to character, patience, decisions, and daily actions. The purpose of marriage is not just to achieve happiness, but to live life with each other, and this is where most people get confused, because they bring emotions to marriage but are not prepared for reality. Emotions are fast, quickly changing, beautiful, but temporary; while reality is simple, hard, and permanent. Love can take you to marriage, but to run a marriage, consciousness, patience, and responsibility are required. Assuming that after marriage, a person will change, the mother-in-law will be...