Marriage is not a dream,

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"Today's session... pre-marriage counseling... "Marriage is not a dream, it is a responsibility." Reality and expectations. In our society, marriage is often presented as a beautiful dream, movie scenes, poetic promises, and the belief that love will automatically solve every problem. But the truth is, marriage is not a dream, it is a continuous responsibility, a responsibility that starts with emotions and extends to character, patience, decisions, and daily actions. The purpose of marriage is not just to achieve happiness, but to live life with each other, and this is where most people get confused, because they bring emotions to marriage but are not prepared for reality. Emotions are fast, quickly changing, beautiful, but temporary; while reality is simple, hard, and permanent. Love can take you to marriage, but to run a marriage, consciousness, patience, and responsibility are required. Assuming that after marriage, a person will change, the mother-in-law will become wise, the husband will automatically become mature, or the wife will tolerate everything - these are all unrealistic expectations, and unrealistic expectations always break, because..."

"I understand. Marriage is indeed a responsibility that requires effort, patience, and commitment from both partners. It's not just about emotions, but about building a life together, with all its ups and downs. Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and problems in marriage. It's essential for couples to be aware of the realities of marriage and be prepared to work together to build a strong and healthy relationship."

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