Cultivate self-awareness and self-acceptance to promote mental well-being and personal growth

A session that truly reflects our society. A young man, 30 years old, with a master's degree and a good job, was worried, and a friend suggested he meet with a psychologist. I asked him the reason, and he said, 'Doctor, I'm facing family issues.' I asked what kind of issues, and he replied, 'My second brother is also married, living in a different part of the house, has less education than me, and doesn't have a good job... and several other things.' I asked, 'So what's the problem?' He said, 'I don't know since when, we've been in a kind of competition, which I'm continuing despite not wanting to. I don't have an answer to it.'

He talked about his feelings for about 20 minutes. When he had unburdened himself, I asked, 'Have you noticed how motorcyclists often try to race with cars or bigger vehicles?' The young man nodded. 'Their bike is 70cc or 150cc, and the car starts at 660cc. Suppose you're sitting in a 660cc Japanese car, protected from the sun, heat, and rain, with the cool air of the AC..."

This conversation highlights the issue of comparison and competition, particularly within families, and how it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and stress. The analogy of the motorcycle and car serves as a powerful metaphor to illustrate the futility of comparing oneself to others who are in a different league or have different strengths and weaknesses.